As a caregiver who is no spring chicken myself, I’ve wondered if men or women have a more difficult time caring for themselves when they become the elderly elderly. It turns out, it’s men who have more difficulties!
There are two classes of activity that people need to live on their own, the ADLs or Activities of Daily Living; and the IADLs, or Instrumental Activities of Daily Living. The problems take place in the IADLs. About 11% of those over age 75 need help with ADLs, 18% with IADLs. ADLs are things necessary to life, such as eating (not cooking, but just using utensils), walking, and hygiene. These seem to impact men and women about equally. IADLs, on the other hand, allow people to continue to thrive and remain self reliant, known by the acronym SHAFT: Shopping, Housework, Accounting, Food preparation, and Transportation. Researchers found the women have the advantage, and believe that a lifetime of performing these activities allow women to continue to do so; even with mild cognitive impairment, most women have a functional reserve that many men lack.
So guys: Whilst you are young and healthy, do a full share of your IADLs! Make it second nature. Then you’ll be able to live on your own in extreme old age, if you need to do so, maintaining your independence.
I was wondering about this as I shoveled the driveway, shopped and carried heavy grocery items from store to car trunk to house to shelves, and otherwise physically extended myself, wishing I had “male” upper body strength. But I am somewhat reassured that at least I know what to make for healthy and tasty meals! And the minimum necessary chores that have to be done. And they’re right, most women can probably do these even with one brain tied behind our backs.
